bit of a back story:

My husband and I have all joint bank accounts besides one I didn’t have access too (for no particular reason, was never an issue)

However we said this bank account we put our money into and save it etc. don’t touch it Incase of an emergency and slowly builds over time.

I don’t work as I look after our 19 month old son full time.

I grew up with my mum constantly lying hiding money from her husbands because she didn’t want them to find out she was wasting the money (my husband new this) he grew up with his dad saving money without his mum knowing to surprise her with family holidays etc. ( I knew this)

Anyway the question..so my husband works away and money has been a bit tight since we had our son but thankfully we don’t live week to week and we can still enjoy our selves however I make conscious decisions to help try and save the money.

My husband went and opened an account without me knowing about it and started drawing money out of his personal account that I don’t have access to.. I am taking about $740 over 6 months and some of that is a few of hundred in a matter of only a couple of days.. this went by without my knowledge.. he had also been drawing $50-$100 here and there out of our joint account which I never questioned.

Anyway moving on he had apparently set the account up with good intensions of surprising me with a family holiday once there was enough money.. but somewhere in the 6 months he has thought stuff it and kept saving but also started withdrawing money and getting really drunk while away and he didn’t have to feel guilty or have me ask where the money was going etc. so it was his way of having fun while away getting drunk without questions asked. How would

You feel honestly In this situation ?