How long did it take you to get over your gender disappointment?

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So, I just found out yesterday that our second baby is a boy! 
Now please don’t get me wrong, I am very happy we’re having a boy. And beyond thankful that he is healthy and growing perfectly. 
However, I’m also overwhelmingly sad that we’re not having another little girl. 
This whole pregnancy I was so sure we were having another girl. I dreamed about her growing up with my first daughter. I was so excited to go through my first daughters baby clothes and toys.. 
Like I said, I am very happy with having a boy... but I feel like I am mourning the little girl from my dreams.. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I want to be over he moon about my baby boy 😩
How long did it take you mamas to get over your gender disappointment?

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With my first I got over my gender disappointment pretty quickly but that was because I knew there was a chance down the road for another. I so badly wanted a girl both times and well both times it’s a boy. This time I’m having a lot harder time getting over it but that’s because my husband says no more so the chance of it happening are slim to none so that is gonna take me a lot more time to get over.. I found out on Christmas and I’m happy at times but then get sad every time I see someone with a little girl or cute little girl clothes. I know when our little guy is here I will be over the moon and happy my boy has a best friend to grow up with but I also know it’s okay to feel this way. Just know it’s okay to feel what you feel and don’t let anyone rush your feelings. Grieve your dream. That’s what I believe I’m doing now.

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I wanted a girl badly too. I cried when I found out that it was a boy. By the next day I was over it. Now I can’t wait to meet my son. 💙

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I completely empathize with how you feel, my husband and I were devastated that we weren't having a girl and then of course felt guilty for feeling that way on top of it. It is just over a month since we found out the gender and I can honestly say I'm 100% over the disappointment and totally excited for our baby boy. This is our first though, so I'm still hoping for a baby girl later on. Bottom line - it's okay to be upset and grieve the baby girl you were hoping for. You are still a great mama and will love your new baby boy to the moon and back. Give yourself time ❤️

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About a week. I still was in shock/feeling doubt but started buying clothes and finally got to see his boy parts yesterday and it just made it so much more real!!

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my 1st was a girl and i have two boys so i was so hoping this baby would be a girl at the anatomy scan i seen the boy parts i was so upset i wanted my daughter to have a sister but within a couple days i got over it every time i feel him kick me it just makes me happy he’s ok in there and so far he’s healthy and at the end of the day that’s what i keep thinking about i know once i see his face I’ll be in love all over again just like with my other 3🥰

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I’m pregnant with my first and really thought it was a girl but it turned out to be a boy. I cried a lot the first two days. It’s gotten better over the last couple weeks but I do still get a bit sad when I see a baby girl. I think it’s ok to let yourself feel sad and grieve the loss of the child you thought you’d have. Once our babies are here, I think we’ll be so overjoyed we wouldn’t be able to imagine any other baby. But for now, just let yourself feel how you do and don’t feel guilty.

How long did it take you to get over your gender disappointment?

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