i feel ashamed....

i don’t want to be judged for my pubic hair when i finally have sex and i’m scared that they will think it’s gross but i wanna be comfortable in my own skin but guys this day in age are so judge mental but is it normal just to leave the hair or shave it? i don’t want to but at the same time i feel like i should so i won’t get hurt while in the act. i feel like it’s not normal and often for guys to be fine with having pubic hair. i also feel like most people think its poor hygiene if you don’t. please help i really need advice.