*UPDATED* Husband wants to spend the night with his friend.

Ladies, I'm don't know if I'm overreacting or if my gut is right. My husband's best friend husband has told her he wants a divorce. She wants my husband to come down there and spend a few days with her. I'm absolutely not comfortable with this for a few reasons. My husband used to be in love with her their junior year of high school. After his junior year he moved, so they never saw each other really after his junior year they just kept in touch. I'm not comfortable with him spending the night with other women, even if he knows them really well. He says I'm being possessive, jealous and cruel for not understanding her situation. Sje has girlfriends that could come and help her thru this! I'm sorry but I would never ask another womans husband to come spend a few night with me. I wouldn't mind if he went there for a day and came back home. Am I being unreasonable?

*Update

Thank you ladies for your advice and comments. Means a lot to me to know the support women have for each other.

My husband came home from work for lunch and asked had I decided what was okay for him to do. I told him if he went that was it, he would come back to an empty home. He stormed off into the kitchen and called his dad. I could hear his dad yelling at him from the other room. When they finished talking he came back white as a sheet and said he was sorry. That he would not be going, that our daughter, future, and us were way more important. He left and I called his dad to see what had happened and he told him that he was a f#$%ing asshole and if he went he would be cut off from his family. Said he would completely support me if he had went.

He came home from work and I sat him down and told him if our family was what he really wanted I would want him to cut her off. He agreed and I sat there watching him take her off all his social media and erase her phone number and told him if I ever found him talking to her that would be it, no second chances. I felt a little harsh but what she wanted and him to agree was it for me. We agreed to put ttc for #2 on hold and just focus on our family. I don't know if I was too harsh having him cut her off but at this point it was the only thing that made me comfortable.

*Update

Some ladies are saying he's only sorry because because his dad threatened to cut him off. Which is was true at first. But he seems to be understanding why it was wrong instead of just being scared of his dad now. And sometimes you need someone to knock sense into you. I will admit my husband is very dense at times. He says he legitimately thought it was the right thing to do for someone in need of a friend. But I asked him how he would feel if I had l wanted to go to a Male friends house and spend a few nights? And he said he would be super upset. Maybe I'm being to naive, but I'm hoping for the best. I've put a lot of time and love into this marriage, we have daughter and I love him. I want to see if he puts effort as well. And if not I'll go from there. Thanks.