Is labor really that bad ?

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Right now i’m only 15. I used to want 5 kids in the future. but now i don’t even know if i want one(naturally). Labor just looks so painful. Like someone is tearing u apart in the most sensitive area of ur body. Is it worth it ?

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Kid, you’ve got 10 years before you even need to think about it.

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You know what, I'm going to actually answer your question instead of judging you. Because 1) young people have kids too and 2) I wondered about the same stuff when I was fifteen and I didn't even have my daughter until I was almost 23. 
I can't tell you anything about actual labor because I never got to experience it. I had an emergency C-section at 36 weeks 2 days because I had HELLP syndrome (like a pretty rare form of preeclampsia but harder on the body) and they didn't figure out what was wrong in time to induce me so I could actually experience labor. I will tell you, I hope you never have to have a C-section. I got a spinal block before my surgery and it was the scariest time of my life. I was alone with all these nurses and doctors and there was sooooo much pressure where they inserted the needle. I cried. Like, a lot. Mainly because I'd never felt anything like that pressure in my life. But also because my husband wasn't allowed in the OR until they got me ready. Oh, and then the doctors started to cut into me and FORGOT to bring my husband in. So I'm laying there crying, and shaking (the medicine can make you shiver and it made me shiver so bad they put five hot blankets on me to warm me up), and I had to ask for them to go get him. My OB apologized, but it sucked because I was so vulnerable and just wanted him next to me. They brought him in. My daughter was out of me in less than fifteen minutes. She looked like an angry purple demon. I only know that because of the pictures. I hardly remember anything. I remember my husband leaning down and telling me he was proud and she's beautiful, but I don't remember her first cry. I don't remember them moving me to the recovery bed and setting her on my chest for skin-to-skin on the way back to our room. I don't remember holding her at all until an hour or so later. And the recovery was hell. Because I was so sick, I stayed in my hospital bed for three whole days. As in a full 72 hours. The medicine they gave me made me feel foggy and it gave me such bad anxiety I couldn't go to sleep. I stayed awake the whole hospital stay (we went in on Sunday night and left friday morning). When I stopped feeling foggy, they let me get up. It took me over an hour just to stand. It's so painful because they cut your nerves and muscles. I couldn't even lean forward to grab my daughter out of the bassinet because I was in so much pain. Then pooping for the first time was awful. It took forever and felt like I sat on sticker bush. And showering by myself was terrible. I was scared to bend down because I was worried I'd pop my incision open. And going home???? As soon as I walked outside the hospital, instant panic attack. Thought I was going to die. 
So yeah, can't tell you about labor. But always consider that you may have to have a C-section one day (this definitely wasn't my birth plan) and that it is extremely painful and rough on your body. It was the scariest most painful experience I've ever had. But my daughter? Worth it. I'd do it all a million more times. Without regret.

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To me pregnancy and labour were horrible!

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Labor isn’t the only hard or painful part. Every step of pregnancy is painful, exhausting and uncomfortable in varying ways. 
I thought I wanted 3 kids and my husband always argued 2...but now that I’m actually pregnant and the rose colored glasses are off-idk if I’ll ever be willing to go through all of this again.

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To be honest I had an epidural and back labor (which you can feel through an epidural) and it was the worst pain of my life but it was temporary. What sucks is AFTER labor. The stitches felt like they took forever, I thought the nurses were never going to stop pounding on my sore stomach. I was so exhausted I couldn’t enjoy my baby. And then I hemorrhaged after and had to have a total stranger help me to the bathroom to help me to the shower to disrobe and clean myself off while I was in the most vulnerable state of my life. And then it hurt to go to the bathroom for like two months after. It was ROUGH. Of course it’s worth it but your body goes through some fucked up shit.

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I had my first baby naturally at 28. Labor and birth are painful, and also beautiful and empowering. It is literally one (hopefully) extremely tough day and then you get to have the most amazing reward.

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I am not judging you I wondered the same things I always thought of having children. 
I got pregnant at 17 and had my baby at the age 17. You should wait a few years to have a baby but I am going to answer your question.
Yes it will hurt if you do it naturally I had a epidural and it wore off before I had my daughter but yes it is worth it every hour every minute and every second it is worth it!

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The pain of birth is fleeting- you only deal with it for hours/days an pain of  recovery for weeks. Pregnancy is hard too. The entire time I was pregnant I had some pain or another- round ligament pain, hemorrhoids, morning sickness, back pain ,swelling, muscles that feel like they are tearing, shortness of breath, and more.  
For me, the hardest part was actually having a newborn/infant.  They are up every few hours to eat, if you breastfeed  then you are too. Breastfeeding is supposed to be better for them plus it saves you a small fortune because formula is really expensive.  My kid didn't sleep through the night until he was 18 months old.  I developed  postpartum depression and anxiety from the fluctuation of hormones and sleep deprivation.  Having a baby is stressful because they are fragile and susceptible to sickness and injury.  You are always concerned about their health and wellbeing.  It takes so much out of you.  ALSO- in my area, daycare costs $1000 a month, which is the cost of renting a small apartment.
I reccomend you go see the world and enjoy yourself for many more years before becoming a parent.  Get a good career because kids are really expensive and it's harder to move up when you have them.  That all being said, my son is the light of my life and I would do ANYTHING for him. And I have also willing decided to have one more.  Kids are amazing, but know that it's not all snuggles and rainbows.

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I know it was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life because I told my husband that multiple times during labour, but not even 30 minutes after the birth I was having a hard time recalling the pain. 
I unfortunately can't say the same about the recovery, that shit hurts. I had to be in the shower to pee for the first 3 days after the birth because peeing with warm water running over my downstairs area was excruciating and I didn't even tear, I just had some grazes. I can't imagine how ladies that tear of have to get cut manage, they are absolute champions in my eyes.

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If it was that bad we wouldn’t have more than 1. I had a horrible labor (5 days) tore horribly and my son is now 2. And im pregnant again. My son is worth it and I know this baby and future babies we have are worth it

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