ex-husband drama 🙄

i have a 5 year old son who’s in kindergarten. he goes to his dads sunday evening and stays with him until i pick him up from school wednesday afternoon. i’m in nursing school, so right now i only work 7p-7a on weekends. this evening, i finally got a chance to go through my sons binder, and saw that he recently had an assessment for his reading. unfortunately, he’s behind in several areas; spelling, context, sounding out words, just basically everything involved in the whole reading process.

i texted his father to tell him this, and told him i’d give him a copy of the assessment results. i figured since we’re his parents, we’d have a discussion on how to get him back on track and be successful. when we met for drop off, my ex was on the phone with his girlfriend. i asked him if we could discuss my son’s assessment, he told me to go ahead but continued with his phone conversation. i asked him several times to get off the phone, he kept refusing and just told me to go ahead and say what i needed to say. now, call me old fashioned, but i think it’s rude to have a phone stuck to your ear when someone is trying to speak to you, especially about something as important as your childs education. he then proceeded to cuss me out because i wouldn’t discuss anything while he was continuing on with his conversation. he ended up telling my son to get in the car (yes, my 5 year old was standing right there as his father cussed me out 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄)

i know my ex and his girlfriend have had issues (my ex clearly still has problems with fidelity); but we’ve been separated since 2015 and divorced since 2016; no part of me wants him. i’m happily married and the only interaction i have with my ex is regarding our son. there’s been other instances before where his girlfriend wanted to be on the phone with him to “monitor” our sons drop off, and it’s ridiculous. she has three kids of her own, so i feel like she should understand the need for us to communicate.

i did out of anger tell him i wanted to smack him, which yes, i know was wrong, and i wish i hadn’t of said it. stress and frustration got the best of me because i literally just wanted to have a 5 minute conversation about our sons education. so after i got home; i texted both of them. i don’t have anything against his girlfriend, but i do have an issue with not being able to just have a conversation with my child’s father. they’ve been together over a year, and prior to her coming along, we’ve always been able to coparent and be civil.

am i just over reacting by being upset that he wouldn’t get off the phone?