Just a little background. I am 9.5 years younger than my husband. 28 and 38. Of course I have a higher sex drive. I would like sex 3 to 4 times. Week. He can go 1 time a week or less. I come onto him daily and express that I desire sex more and I get called things like a freak, that’s all I think about... etc. he says stress causes him to not desire it. We own a business and on good sale days is usually when he is in the mood. I wind up masturbating about 3 times a week to get me by while he’s right in bed sleeping next to me. I get frustrated and just get in moods where I don’t bother to mention it because it won’t happen anyway so I just satisfy myself so by the time he is finally ready to engage I am already satisfied and not in the mood. He doesn’t ease his way in. I mean he goes down on me. But it’s like a I’m ready let’s start thing. No caressing or kissing or holding. In fact the only time he comes to my side of the bed is the one time a week he reaches over for some. When he gets in the mood even though I’m not I just go ahead and do it anyway because who knows the next time it will happen. It’s very frustrating!!!! There’s barely any affection in our relationship. It’s pretty much about business 90% of the time. Therefore no sexual tension or chemistry is building. I don’t have a question I guess I’m just venting.

This is a downfall of being with an older man.