My grandmother in-law wants $38k...

So back story time.

My husband and his brother have had a hard go. Their mom died and both their dads (they have different dads) weren’t around so their grandma took them in.

My husband and I recently got a house and took in his little bro after he got out of rehab back in August. We told him he could live with us rent free if he helped my husband get our detached garage into a livable space for him. We always had plans on turning it into a separate apartment when we bought the house, but we just never got around to it. As long as he helped he could stay with us...

In the meantime, my parents who own their own business gave him a job as well so he could help pay his court fees.

Guys. He lasted two days building the detached garage. He and my husband started digging a trench for plumbing and he didn’t like digging and kept throwing his shovel on the ground wanting to quit. My husband and I reminded him that the rules were simple, and that he either needed to be out in the garage by the time our baby was born (due in December) or find another place.

He moved out with his sister and kept his job with my parents. But about three months later he started showing up to work high on pot. So my parents had to let them go. When he got fired, we reached out and made the same offer. Help build the garage before the baby comes and you can stay with us for free. He lost his shit on my husband, saying we were mean to him because he was gay and that’s also why my parents fired him. I even tried to get him in a shelter at this point. Sadly he went back to drugs. I’ve been really hoping that he would get arrested. (this was back in November) I know that sounds messed up, but it’s honestly the safest place for him. Well he got arrested this week, and since they basically let him off of his charges from last year they threw the book at him. He had seven charges including burglary, several drug possession charges, and others. It totaled up to $38,000 in bail... his grandmother, who has bailed him out all the others times he’s been arrested, asked if we could cover the cost.

But then she keeps asking!!!

She said it’s the least we could do after “kicking him out out.”

No way, he chose to leave on his own. Plus, I have a 7 weeks old baby now. I’m barley paying all my bills. You think we just have $38k laying around?

She goes on to say he would’ve been clean if my “stupid Christian parents” didn’t fire him for being gay.

See now I’m pissed. My parents business is small. They can’t always pay themselves always. They had no positions open. They hired my brother in-law our if the goodness of their hearts, never even meeting the guy because they wanted to help him stay clean. Yes my parents go to church but I can assure you they don’t hate the LGBTQ community in anyway. He came to work high on pot. A job where he has to drive a forklift. He even admitted it the first time and my dad gave him another shot. She said that couldn’t prove it since they never ordered a drug test.

So apparently she’s told all of their side of the family that me and my family is a bunch of gay hating religious people and not to talk to me...

And what does my husband say? He told his grandmother that it’s not my or my family’s fault that he went back to drugs and if anything it’s hers because she has enabled him for the past 10 years. Said that if no one talks to us over lies he would prefer it because clearly they aren’t real family then. Even told her she can’t see our baby again until she apologizes to me and clears things up with the other family members.

All in all I’m glad he’s in jail as bad as that sounds. I’m really hoping this will help him get/stay clean. I’m also hoping they he and my husband can one day rebuild the relationship. Addiction sucks. If anyone else had family members that have addiction problems I hope you can keep hanging in there.