Dear community of <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>,

I would like to ask for help&opinions.

I met my boyfriend 2 years ago.

We are living together since the 1st of April ( spent 10 month together intensively). I moved to the flat he was renting from his aunt. In the beginning I felt a bit like not being equaly home there what might be understandable if we consider that he was living 5 years there alone.

His caracter is a bit conservative, introverted, leader type, extremely caring, logical and progressive sometimes a bit grumpy. His working a lot as a lawyer and he is spending 3 evenings keeping Karate lessons for kids arriving home late. ( I saw once and he was amazing with them). He seems like he is really selfconfident. At least he was never telling any concern about his life/him self.

He has a lovely, loving and caring family. He is not a huge fun of hugs and kisses but he loves to show his feelings by presents.

I am a bit openminded. Working in a callcenter. Some periods I spend like an introverted and some as an extroverted but I always love long hugs with my closer friends/family members. I am extremely emphatic and not so organised ( more like a butterfly ). I am a caring human being who is really people and animal oriented. I would like to start studies on psichology faculty. My parents are devorced but they love me and my sister and trying to help as much as possible. I am sometimes not that selfconfident and sometimes fine with myself. I am trying to face my problems and find a solution though I feel at least I need emotinal support time by time to be able to continue my way :).

As I beleive every couple we started to have more conflicts when we started to live together. And that is totally fine when we are coming with a different background with different housekeeping methods etc. Also these should be done by time by finding the common point where sometimes his sometimes mine point will be accepted or we find a totally different way to solve these tiny little conflicts ( close the door, turn off the light, don't put your whatever here or there.. etc. ) And I thought we are on this way till last night.

The current conflict:

I was finishing at work at 17.00. Though normally after work I am going home right away this day I just had the feeling that I would like to spend time with my sister. It was soo good so when he called me around 20.30 if I'm home I said not yet. His voice changed ( I felt he was disappointed) and he said okay than I will stay at work a bit more. I asked if he was about asking for help in anything but he said: no-no nothing ( his voice sounded a bit disapointed and angry, It felt like he was punishing me because I was not at the place where he expected me to be). Anyway he was saying goodbye. At 21.40 I was collecting may things and went home. My sister lives 20 minutes away from us by walk and I notified him that I'm on my way when left my sisters place. He got up and started to come home which normally takes 35 min for him. Unfortunately I realized that I left my home- key on my sisters bad 2 minutes away from our home. I turned back and messaged both of them. I was almost running there and back but of course he got home earlier.

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In previous conlmflicts like this he would wait until we go to bad ( even if I ask him several times if there is anything hurt8ng him) and would come up with his feelings and an explanation that he thinks this or that was not cool of me. I was asking him if it is posibble to face these things rigth away to give a chance for more balanced evening hours after finding a solution for a current thing.

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So, I got home and as I asked him he was telling me that :

-he felt angry when he found out that I am still at my sister's place

- when he was calling me he was ready to xome home but felt it is pointless if I am not there

- he wanted to ask me to check something in his coats picket but since I was not there he couldn't count on me

I felt like I have no problem to say sorry when I do a mistake. However in this case I felt that he was cutting himself off from being together because if he does not sais that he is ready to go home/ or he needs help he does not give the chance to me to do something differently than it has happened last night.

Than he was coming up with our housekeeping. That he feels like he is the only one doing anything. When I let him knew what I did just the last two weeks he said okay of cours I do things as well (and here c9mes the sentence I can't move one) and of course he do not wants to make me to be a women like 'the model of the 19th century's the house wife doing everything with the house' also he wont be the man model of the 21st century cooking, washing cleaning the house' especially not when he is spending 12 hours in average working in the office. (Well I should add that we are sharing our expenses and from the first moment I was telling I do not need money feom him but time and love and peace).

I fewl totally mixed up.

I do not know how to react.

I do not know if it is manipulation or he just had a bad day though I feel frustrated when I think of bringing up the topic again.

I am not the one who can be closed in a flat waiting hours for someone who will got home tired and grumpy.

I am trying to think of long term as well because I do not want to repeat my parents mistake getting devorce when having kids already I am responsible for.

I love him but somwtimes I feel not equal in the relation what might not be clear from this post but feel free to ask for examples for parts not clear enogh.

Thank you if you read this long post.

If you still have patience please give me feedback where could I do something differently and how/why?