Feeling discouraged

Hi all. I just need to let it all out and talk to ladies who are experiencing the same thing. I'm 39, 40 in September. My husband and I have been TTC since October of 17, but not seriously trying, tracking, getting out timing together, 100% all in until this winter.

I went to my OB monday to talk about everything and my options bc I'm not pregnant.

However this month my breasts have been so sore, like painfully sore, and I had the cramping anx discharge like I do with ovulation, but never got that peak on my Digital opk.

I was concerned and mentioned it to my OB. But I felt dismissed. I am overweight. It's been a struggle for longer than I want to admit. But I feel like she just kept pushing that fact that I'm old and fat. She recommended a diet that I follow and I will. They also took a blood sample to check hormones. I was closest to day 21 (24 actually) of my cycle and will have more blood drawn on the 3rd day.

But she never answered my questions. She information me about ivf and helping my husband's sperm meet my egg... i don't remember what that's called. But just said that the first method only gives us a 35% change of becoming pregnant and IVF will only give us a 40% chance.

I went in feeling very anxious and overwhelmed, then left feeling heartbroken and hopeless.

I know we're older. I know my clock is ticking. But I couldn't control the events in our lives. I couldn't make my husband be ready sooner. Also, do to a mix up, i wasn't added to health insurance until January. We got married in 2017 amd HAD to be married for me.to join his ins. I had Obamacare.

Anyway. I guess I'm just asking for some reassurance. She made me feel like I'm menopausal and have no hope of us being parents. I have No menopause symptoms. I just dont know. Half of me wants to take a hpt. But the if it's negative I'll be heartbroken. But if I get my period next month I'll be heartbroken... so who knows. I've been so upset since Monday.