In-Laws

So my husband and I have an almost 9 month old baby girl, we went through almost 3 years of trying before we turned to treatment and she was conceived via <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IUI</a>. We are very blessed to have her. She was born 5 weeks early and we spent 47 days in NICU before being able to bring her home. One set of Mikes grandparents are all about her and his Nanny buys all of her holiday outfits and is coming by every chance she gets (at least twice a month). Well his other grandma who lives right in town hasn’t seen her maybe a handful of times and also his parents don’t come by very often either. All of them get upset when she cries and wants me when they try to pick her up. It’s because she doesn’t know them. Also my husband’s brother and sister in law don’t have much to do with her at all when we see them. I have tried to be nice to the sister in law on multiple occasions and she is always rude. So I quite trying. Well my brother in law and sister in law are in the process of adopting 2 children and are fostering 3 more. They were telling us how much money they make a day doing that. I really feel like that’s the wrong reason to do that especially because my sister in law is so short fused with them and she quit her job so hopefully they can take on a couple more to make more money. I really don’t want them to have anything to do with my daughter the way the act. Idk how to handle this situation. I don’t want to hurt my husbands feelings but he knows and sees it.