Before you read... NO I am not trying to offend parents with autistic children. I just want to know if you agree with what my mother is doing and what would you do the same and what would you do differently.

WARNING: EXTREMELY LONG VENTING SESSION

I’m so annoyed with my mother. My baby sister is 3 going on 4 and severely autistic. I have a 2 year old daughter. We all live in the same house. Anything bad my sister does she doesn’t attempt to correct it.... her answer to everything is “ she doesn’t understand “. But when my daughter does something she yells at her and expect me to correct my daughters behavior. My sister constantly hits my daughter, pulls her hair, Choke her, kick her and take toys from her.... my mothers response “ oh she don’t understand “ now if my daughter does those things my mothers response is “ get her, why are you letting her do that. Or she’ll tell my daughter to get out of her room. I hate when she says my sister doesn’t understand because 1. She doesn’t know what she does or doesn’t understand just because she’s non verbal.... and even if she doesn’t understand she doesn’t try to attempt to make her understand that doing those things aren’t ok. She’s in school and my sister is gonna start doing this at school because my mom isn’t attempting to correct this situation at home. Just now my daughter was in my moms wrong with my sister and all of a sudden my daughter is screaming and I jump up ( 8 months pregnant ) and see blood in my daughters mouth and my sister has a play hammer in her hand.... what’s my mothers response ? Asking my sister is she’s ok... when my sister wasn’t the one crying. And also.... “ she doesn’t understand “ I’m so fucking tired of that excuse because that’s what it is at this point.. an excuse. If you have a normal child and an autistic child living in the same home.. treat them the same as far as discipline with a FEW exceptions. For that past couple of weeks I’ve been stopping my daughter from going in there with my sister for the reason my daughter Always gets hurt or blamed or yelled at for something. And my mom says why you don’t let her come in her room. When she knows the damn reason why. When I stopped letting her go in there my daughter was fine. I’m tired of this. Please someone tell me if I’m wrong for feeling like this