So today I experienced , for the first time, the “feel sorry for u” eyes and the sad slight head tilt followed by the awkward silence when I answered honestly when asked about whether there was any “update” to when we will be having children. Rather than the usual polite response I said it how it really is- neither friend new what to say or how to react so I did the only thing I know how and quickly changed the subject to make them feel better! I drove home wishing I hadn’t answered as I did and guilty for putting them in an awkward position. Why , even when we shouldn’t , do we still feel the need to apologise when actually topics such as infertility need to be more widely discussed , perhaps only then will people know something, anything, to say when they receive the answer they aren’t expecting.