When you lost your virginity

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Who’d you lose your virginity to (NO NAMES - just boyfriend, friend, etc)? 
How old were you?
Did you plan it?
Where was it? 
How was it?
How’d it play out after?
Do you wish you’d done anything differently?
Do you still think about it sometimes today?
I’m trying to gather insight to shape a conversation with my daughters. Thanks for your input!

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Eeermmm ok so mine is no love story like the previous ones, but I’m pretty sure it’s damn common!
I lost my virginity at 18 with a guy that was not my boyfriend nor anything close, we were just mates but there was always certain sexual tension between us. One night out nightclubbing we started kissing and one thing led to another and we ended up in his apartment (we were in uni living away from our hometowns), I stayed the night and I could not believe what had happened because I always had a MASSIVE crush on him. It was not love, it was not “the best sex experience in my life” nor anything cliché like that, but I had fun, we were responsible enough to wear a condom, we did not end up together or anything, and we both continued our lives happily separate (after shagging a few more times for the following six months 😏). It was OK, I do not regret it, I did not love him, it was JUST OK. 
Bottom line is: not everybody has a Cinderella love story, and I also don’t believe that you have to wait for “mr right” in order to have sex. You can have sex whenever you desire and whoever you desire with and have fun and enjoy it without remorse as long as you’re responsible and look after yourself

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I was 28, and he was 32... Lost it to my husband... We promised to wait until marriage but didn’t quite follow through until we got engaged (we had 2 months left of walking down the aisle)... So blessed we are each other’s firsts...

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I was 14, a freshman in high school. I was dating a senior in the same high school. I think it was at the apartment my Mom and I lived in back then. I can't remember when it was exactly but I became pregnant and gave birth to our daughter four months early. Now she will be turning 24 years old in two weeks. She is the eldest of all his children. We broke up a month or so after giving birth. 
My daughter has decided to wait and I haven't discouraged her. It wasn't easy being a teen mom. I did stay in school and graduated on time. My Mom did allow me to hangout with friends occasionally. I'm very appreciative she did. I didn't hangout with friends too often because I enjoyed spending time with my daughter. I still do my daughter is truly a pleasant and thoughtful person.
 She loves art and being creative and we encourage it, my Mom and I. My Mom's a retired Art teacher and an Artist. Two years before becoming a teen mom I had been hit by a car. After all we have been through over the years I feel we are very blessed. Though we don't have a lot we do have each other. I don't often think of him but sometimes when my daughter makes certain facial expressions I can see how she favors him a little and how she is a good combination of the both of us. I've waited all these years to be a good relationship to try to have another child or more. Things just have worked out that way in my situation. I had wanted to have more children sooner but it just happened this way.

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I lost it when I was 18 (I spent 4 yrs. of HS with my boyfriend, and he was suuuper scared of getting me pregnant, so we never took it that far. We eventually broke up, and I hooked up with a friend that I liked who always crushed on me)
It happened while I was hanging out at his house with him and 2 of his guy friends, drinking and smoking.
We broke off from the other guys and went to his bedroom and started messing around. The sex was great! I really has fun, but one of his buddies burst in the room as we were coming to climax, so that was awkward...
I don't regret it at all. I wish my long-term boyfriend had felt comfortable enough to experience that with me, but my guy-friend was great, made me feel comfortable (didn't pressure me to smoke, drink, or mess around--I voluntarily partook and felt in complete control the entire time). 
Eventually, I did end up hooking back up with the HS boyfriend and took HIS virginity...kind of ironic, but it was good to have had some practice 😃
Those 2 guys and my spouse were the only men I've ever bedded. 
I'd tell your girl that no matter the circumstances, if she feels uncomfortable or pressured in ANY WAY, she should leave. She can always rescind consent, and if a boy doesn't stop when she says "No, I changed my mind, I don't wanna do this" then she needs to be assertive/aggressive in ending it (if he doesn't take "no", then its rape, plain and simple).

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At 14-15 and it wasn't the way i created this first moment in my mind:with my first lover but lucky me the guy was super gentle and delicate with me,

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I lost my virginity when I was 18. It was with my boyfriend at the time my first real relationship. I was in love with him so do I regret it no. It wasn’t planned. We were together for a while but we actually hadn’t had sex. It happened one morning while he was getting ready we were in the restroom he was getting ready to go to school. I had just woke up and I had to use the restroom so he let me in. I was getting ready to leave and he stopped me and started kissing me. And next thing I know I laying down on the bathroom floor having sex with him. It was very uncomfortable and it hurt. I remember being sore for a few days. Btw I would stay the night at his house all the time cuz my parents were going through some rough times when I was younger so to get away from it. I would stay at his house. We had known each for years. We went to school together. But I never knew he liked me. Until I started hanging out with him at house more often. He was my friend for years. I am glad that I actually waited to lost my virginity to someone who I felt comfortable with and someone who I actually loved.

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I was 14, lost it to my then boyfriend who I'd been with a few months, it wasn't planned as such but we had talked about sex, we did it at his mums house in his bedroom, it hurt and he freaked out afterwards about me getting pregnant (we used a condom), we only did it the once and split up shortly afterwards. That was 20 years ago and our kids now go to school together. We've talked about it once or twice over the years as we're still friends of sorts, but on the whole I don't think about my past partners.

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I was 15. It wasn't planned exactly,  but we were getting pretty close to that point. 
It took me a handful of times for sex to actually feel good,  like I had to get used to it. 
I have no regrets. I married him!  We have been together since I was 14.
I do think about it sometimes,  very fondly❤

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I was 16, he was 18. He was my boyfriend at one point when I started high school. Long story short, it was planned bc I was getting teased about being a virgin. So I asked him if we could “get it over with”. It was a terrible experience! I totally regret it. It wasn’t pleasurable or romantic. I wish I would’ve lost it to someone I cared about and really it was borderline inappropriate. It’s taken me a long time to recover from that one thing. So I would urge you to tell your girls that you only have this gift to give once. Don’t pick someone just bc they’re there. Or bc you think you’re in love. Pick someone who’s seriously in love with you.

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19. So glad that I waited until college.

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