DISCLAIMER: I am in no way asking for people to tell me to go behind my husbands back and not take my birth control. I would never do that to him. I’m simply posting this to hear other women’s story’s and opinions on how I feel.

Hey everyone! Here’s a little bit about me. 💕

I’m a very young wife. I got married to the love of my life at the age of 17, and am now turning 19 in a few months. We had been together for two years when we got married and knew it was best for our situation to get married young. Since being married we’ve only gotten closer and grown in so many ways both as individuals and as a family.... however that’s the thing... I’m ready to start a family and he isn’t there yet.

As I said before, for our situation it was best for us to get married young. Rewind to a few months before our wedding... and he told me this, “As long as we wait a few months after we get married... we can have kids whenever you want.” At that time, I was in such a whirl wind of graduating high school, planning the wedding, and making arrangements to move across the country, the idea of having children wasn’t on my radar yet, but the idea of it being a possibility stuck in my mind.

So fast forward to where we are now... almost a year into our marriage. And I’m finally settled down and ready to start trying to conceive! But every time I bring it up, my hopes are shattered by his reaction and I’m left with a sense of guilt for even wanting a baby right now. He says it’s not the right time for us and that we’re still kids right now. But it’s so hard for me to relate to that given how much growing up I’ve had to do in the past year alone.

Now... I’d never in a million years, try to be tricky with my birth control. I always tell him when I miss a pill or when my period is even a day late. I try to be upfront about everything. The hardest part is when I think there is a slight chance I might be pregnant and I get my hopes up and then am crushed like I’m a normal woman trying to conceive. 😣

What I’m asking for is just some general advice from people who have been in similar situations. I hate going through this every month, and wish I could just take the desire to have kids away from me until he’s ready, but my heart just can’t seem to shake the feeling month after month.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks everyone. 💕