When should my SO stay with me ?

Marquicia 👸🏾

I live at home with my Dad when I first got pregnant my SO was spending the night like once a month and coming over every weekend. Once I hit like 5/6 months he started spending the night like every other weekend, now he stays over every weekend basically. It was a big transition that took literal baby steps to get here as my dad is not the happiest about his daughter having a baby and was kind of resentful to my SO. Now that I’m due in a few weeks I want my SO here every night. Sleeping is so uncomfortable for me right now and my SO massages me and cuddles me to help me sleep. I would hate to go into labor in the middle of the night and he miss it as he doesn’t have a car & our transit system stops running at 1AM.

S/N 1: I’m 35w 2d we live in the same city but his house is about a 15-20minute drive from mine and the hospital is 5mins from my house, he does not have a car or live with anybody that has a car

S/N 2: my dad works two jobs so I’m usually home alone, he leaves for work before I do and comes home after I’m already sleep

S/N 3: I just want to clarify that I live at home but not free. The rent food and utilities is split 50/50. So honestly in my eyes I can do w.e I want cause I pay for my way but I’m trying to be respectful

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Ha

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There are plenty of women that deliver early. He should be there already and you’re dad is just going to have to understand.

Ha

Ha • Feb 21, 2019
*your

Sp

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Around 39w I would imagine would be a good time... but anything could happen

Ma

Marquicia 👸🏾 • Feb 22, 2019
He hasn’t said that my SO couldn’t come but you can feel the tension my dad has expressed that he has no issue with my SO he actually likes him but is upset that he got me pregnant cause now he feels like he’s losing his baby

Sp

Sprinkles Mom • Feb 21, 2019
What does your dad think... sounds like it's his house (so his rules)

Ch

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I would say at like 37 weeks , im 38 and in early labor . It really can happen anytime

Ha

Ha • Feb 21, 2019
This. I’m 38 weeks and have been in early labor for two weeks now. I’d be concerned if my SO wasn’t around

Ke

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I'd say 37 weeks

Em

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When you have your own place. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Seems disrespectful to make your dad uncomfortable in his own home.

Ma

Marquicia 👸🏾 • Feb 22, 2019
Obviously I don’t plan to live with my dad forever but I see no point in making life harder than it is, like I’m about to have a baby my family, my school, my job & my doctors are all in the city, moving 1-2 hours away where it will literally just be me my SO the baby & 1 car I feel is adding extra stress especially with both of my parents telling me not to move it’s kind of annoying like my dad constantly says don’t leave just stay until he’s atleast 1 but then makes it awkward when my child’s father is around but if my SO wasn’t around and helping out I’m sure he’d be livid

Ma

Marquicia 👸🏾 • Feb 22, 2019
To afford market rent I would honestly have to move like an hour or 2 outside of the city and being I work full time and go to school fulltime in the city that wouldn’t even be logical especially not with it being I’m the only one with a car in my relationship also my dad gets housing assistance so our rent goes strictly off our income and he actually gets a little more off because I’m under 25 and in school

Sa

Sarah • Feb 22, 2019
Why don’t you get your own place with your SO? If you are paying half of the rent now you could split the rent with him and avoid the awkwardness with your dad