Who’s in the right? HELP NEEDED ❌

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I need advice. My parents left today for vacation, and they said I could have my boyfriend during the day over but he couldn’t sleep over. My parents are Christians and believe two people shouldn’t sleep in the same bed unless married. He can’t sleep over even if it was on the couch. He is 25, I am 21. He’s insulted by this because he didn’t grow up in a household with rules like that. He’s taking it so far that he refuses to come see my parents whenever he drops me off from a date or anything. But I live under their roof, so I respect their wishes 🤷🏻‍♀️ He doesn’t and I’m really annoyed he is going to throw away quite possibly everything. If we get married they won’t wanna come to wedding, he’s gonna destroy whatever relationship I have with my mom and I’m just thinking ahead here, but I’m nervous she’s gonna kick me out because of his stupid stubborn ass. I don’t even know what to do, I can’t side with him on this one because ITS THEIR HOUSE. What do I do?

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If he doesn’t want you to abide by their wishes and he has some big issue with it, then I guess he can get a place for the two of you and you’d then be living under your OWN roof. Otherwise, he sounds toxic to your relationship with your family. What they’re asking of you both is not in any way out of the norm. He however, refusing to interact with them, basically being super disrespectful to your family, is a huge giant red flag. If you’re already anticipating him trying to distort your relationship with your mom and dad, boo he’s got to go 👋🏼

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I have been in this exact situation where I was living with my parents until I was 24 and I abided by their rules out of respect. If I ever had a guy that couldn’t agree with those rules I stopped dating them because that meant he couldn’t respect my parents and that’s an absolute no go for me. I got married at 24 but dated my husband for about a year and a half before getting married and he ALWAYS was so respectful of their wishes and I’m so glad I waited for someone like that. I’m not saying you have to break up, but you need to consider the fact that this could cause strain on your relationship with your family. I think you just need to take some time to think about it, at the end of the day do what you feel is best.

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He needs to grow up. And if he doesn’t want to abide by their rules since you are still living with them, then he can but a place of his own and you can live Together. 
Any man that doesn’t respect my parents, (if they have no actual reasoning) does not get my respect.

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Is he worth it? You're parents will always be there assuming they are not toxic people to you your bf could leave tomorrow hypothetically. Ask yourself if hes worth it and then talk to him

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Your parents request is not unreasonable. You both being adults should respect their ideas. I would leave him for not respecting my family.

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Wow he’s a jerk if it’s your parents house he has to respect that he can’t sleep over and the fact that he wants to fight about it I would even consider marrying such a jerk

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It sounds as if you aren’t dating a man , you are dating a child. If he can’t respect the fact you live under your parents roof & abide by the rules of THEIR home , he should provide you with a home to which you two can make your own rules to abide by and do whatever you want.

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