MIL is turning me into a crazy person!

Taya • Mommy to Elliotte: 7/9/17 💕 And Killian 3/10/19 💙 Sullivan 7/15/23 💙

Why is it that MILs are so annoying? She walked up to me as soon as we got to church on Sunday, laughed at my belly, and said, “WOW! You are huge. No offense.” Seriously? I felt super cute in my outfit that day! I weigh 154...so I’m not enormous by any means. What do you want my body to look like when it’s carrying a fully formed human being?

And she loves to ask irritating questions like “Did your doctor say when she thinks the baby will come?” It takes so much self control not to say, “I don’t know, she forgot to bring her crystal ball to our appointment.”

Then today we had a quick ultrasound to confirm the baby is head down and this evening she said, “So how much does the baby weigh?” Woman! I don’t know! She is driving me crazy!

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Me

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I get the first one but the other ones are normal, it’s just hormones. We went to breakfast yesterday with my MIL and as soon as I got out of the car she said “wow you’ve really popped!” Well no shit Lisa I’m 9 months pregnant. Where do you want the baby to go?

C

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Maybe the pregnancy hormones are hitting the wall because those questions are not that annoying lol she’s just interested in the pregnancy But best of luck for the rest of pregnancy ❤️

Mo

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I've seen my mother in law three times since being pregnant and we're almost 37 weeks. One of those was our baby shower, the other was our gender reveal, and the third was last weekend she invited us to dinner on a whim. This family BOTHERED me to have this baby. Literally at our wedding at the reception and every function I've seen them at since. I've told them all they better cherish this baby, because we're DEFINITELY one and done.

Sh

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Lol! Just here to say, I can relate! My MIL is extremely overbearing. With my first I built up so much resentment towards her and it took me almost a year to work past that. I’m trying to not let it get to me this time around. The only advice I can give is to love her anyway. Her opinions don’t have any power over you, no matter how annulling and ridiculous they are.

Ta

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Wow, I didn’t realize how much I came across as a terrible person! I should have clarified that she’s the type of person to repeatedly ask a question but not actually listen to the response - like she never listens to what you say. So she asks these questions every time she hears I have an appointment. And she usually follows up the “how big will baby be” question with “because you’re really pushing out!” And I’m always polite to her, but it’s irritating. Even my husband gets annoyed with her.We have a good relationship, but inwardly she always annoys me, even when I’m not pregnant.

Me

Merissa • Feb 22, 2019
I don’t think you’re terrible at all! I get it trust me. My grandma asked me how big the baby was and I was idk they don’t tell you that, then she meant how much weight have I gained. First off, neither one of those is a correlation and second, I’m not telling anyone besides my mother how much I’ve gained and that’s such a rude question. To be fair my grandma drives everyone crazy and she’s super rude to everyone.

Ra

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I just think you don’t like her lol Those are normal questions and normal reactions most people ask and have. It’s def you that is highly irritated and not her. I would take a deep breath and be grateful she’s interested and involved. My mil doesn’t even call to check on me.

Ta

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Yessss, my father in law is the same and he gets mad when I’m too busy with other stuff to respond or talk. Like jeez, come ON.

Sh

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My MIL doesn’t really seem interested in my pregnancy, maybe she’s tired of hearing me talk about it! She’s got 3 other grandkids so I guess she’s over it

Be

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I feel like I could have written this myself haha. I see my doctor every three days and every single time she texts me to see how my appointment went. Like, it went fine, I’ll text you if anything goes wrong! Or she’ll ask me if I think the baby is coming soon. How the heck should I know?!? Ugh. I hope these irritating feelings go away soon I hate feeling mean.