Hello,

Jumping in, I am a single mother to 2 girls and I have a son who lives with his father. I moved states away for a job 3 years ago and I was promoted 2 years ago into an amazing position. I've since been considering moving back because my job always the flexibility to work virtually and I'd have to travel back for certain meetings and things every so often.

Here's my dilemma...My team consists of 3 people (1 of which is me). My colleague announced he will be moving because his husband found a job a couple of states away and they move in May. My supervisor's husband has sort of been forced into retirement and with their budget they won't be able to afford to live where they are now so they've decided to move back to their home state between June and August. Then there's me, certain things will require someone to be in the office and initially there was an agreement that I would just do it and I wasn't included in the discussion. I felt forced to stay put so I said okay. I started looking around for schools for my 4 year old to start when she's 5 in August and that was that. However for the past few months it's been bugging me that I receive child care assistance for my girls and when my oldest daughter starts school I may no longer qualify for the assistance meaning I don't know if I'll be able to afford child care for my youngest daughter who just turned 2. On top of that I pay child support for my son (no complaints, did it by choice) so there's no telling if that will be steady or increase but for the most part by God's grace we live comfortably and well! It doesn't leave me broke and without so I can still provide for my daughters but it is enough to take away from a reasonable budget to afford child care without the assistance, if that makes sense

Anyway,

So I went to my supervisor today and in tears expressed to her that I am going to need to make some serious decisions about moving closer to my support system because I'm going to need it when my daughter starts school. She didn't seem upset but rather annoyed and to sum it up she told me to put my youngest in another daycare (which I've already priced and within a reasonable distance it's still too pricey), she told me to enroll my daughter in after school programs, told me I'm not the only single mother so call around and see what other options are available to me, asked me if am receiving child support and that I need to be using that to pay for childcare in which I let her know I receive just enough to cover the copay for child care assistance. She asked what if I moved and was just in the same position I am now (meaning no help from anyone), and also went as far as saying she doesn't know how I will move and keep my job. She wasn't nasty towards me when she said those things and we talked for an hour but I felt like I was being persuaded to not move Because there was already a discussion on changing my job function, she says I'd then need to find someone to do the piece of work that requires me to be in the office.

There is an office 20mins from where I'm looking to move to and the little work that does require me to be in office can be rerouted there I'd just have to call ahead to ensure they have an empty/unused desk or office, so I personally don't see the issue.

I've prayed on this and feel confident in letting her know that I have chosen to move I just don't want to piss her off! The training for this position is 12-18months and I've just completed that. I like my job and very thankful for it but I don't want to keep myself potentially stuck. She told me I'd be losing my independence and that she thinks I'm strong and can handle whatever comes my way, while encouraging it wasn't sincere.

I don't mind staying or going but I have a choice to make.

I know it's up to me and y'all can't decide for me but am I asking for too much?!

What do I do?