Say you’ve been living with your SO for three years, contributing to payments, planning a future with them (marriage, kids), etc.

They get pulled over, and told you they got pulled over for tinted windows, but purposely left out they got a misdemeanor for an expired license. You found out yourself by seeing their ticket in their car.

They had to get a lawyer for green card reasons and didn’t tell you. You found out on your own. And when you confronted them, they first tried lying about it and had a nasty attitude.

They went down a job position, but didn’t tell you. You had a feeling and asked them and they only then told you, you find out it’s been a week since that happened.

They bought a car but didn’t tell you beforehand, they just come home and say “I got a car.”

They have been giving big amounts of money to their family members and only told you randomly, when this has been going on for years.

*none of these things are in the correct order but they happened within 2 months*

And when you talk to them when one thing happened first, you tell them it’s ok, but you just want them to communicate with you and not hide things from you. You stress that hiding things is what is upsetting you, you are there to support them through anything else. Then you find out the next thing. Then the next thing.

You keep talking to him about hiding things from you and they get super nasty and basically tell you none of it is your business because it doesn’t have to do with you. That you only need to know the headlines and not the details. That it’s boring information that doesn’t matter. That you are over exaggerating and causing drama. That they are in the right and you are in the wrong.

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