Okay okay so I need some serious relationship advice. Honest opinions. Should I trust this? Should I give this a try? My baby’s father and I were together for 4 years since I’ve been 17 our son is 1. We broke up around May of last year. Not due to cheating. We just didn’t get along no more towards the end. We both didn’t spend time with each other no more like it just wasn’t the same. So in June he got into another relationship. Of course I was hurt. He had this lady meet my son and everything. But at the time I didn’t understand that he was hurt to.

Anyways. His new girl always called me a bitch, always wanted to fight me and so on. We never did. i didn’t have time for it. Anyways this girl is his coworker but she started around the time we actually broke up. So he wasn’t cheating on me with her.

Since the day we broke up he always said he missed his family and wants his family back. He wants the old me back and so on. But we never actually went about it. So many negative words been exchanged so we both just didn’t trust each other. Mixed emotions I guess. He said I was to stubborn and ect. But same with him. I think after our baby we grew apart instead of closer. Our relationship was the best before I had him. After our son we didn’t make time for each other no more. He never tried to leave me alone ever. He always said he’s coming back and always will come back even if I found someone else. He said he wanted to find each other again. Almost a year later he never stopped talking to me, or nothing. He always tried to cheat on her with me and I will always say no even when I missed him.

So 2 days ago. He came at me and said I’m ready to work this out. I’m ready to give us a try again I miss my family I miss you and I want to be happy with you. I want to work this out. Whatever me and her have I will stop it today. He said he’s ready to give us another shot.

We both live with our parent he lives with his dad I live with my mom. He said he loves it like that and doesn’t want to move in no time soon because he wants to date me and get to know me again. So we will just be spending the night at each other’s. Trust me we never did that stage after 5 months of knowing each other we moved in lol. But we stayed together 4 years after that tho.

He also told me he doesn’t want to make this official until around April or after April. Which I’m not sure why he would put a time on it. I guess he wants to wait until it’s almost a year. Mind you his parents also broke up for a year and got back together so I guess that’s what he’s trying to do which is werid.

So with the girl. He actually deleted her off of facebook. Actually broke up with her and doesn’t speak to her. Atleast with What I seen. I know this because this is all she post about her being single now and another mans trash is another mans treasure. So what she’ll do is post a pic of her with her boobs out and everything. But anyways that doesn’t matter. I told him I will learn to trust him. Since we’re just working on things and not together yet he can stay at his job. But is it wrong for me that I want him to relocate his job else where ? When we get back together. Like I said it’s been almost 9 months since she’s been working there and that’s how long they been talking. But he said I have to understand that’s his career and there’s no openings right now anywhere else.

Should I feel bad for her. Seems like she was just a rebound for him right ? She was a complete bitch to me. She would always make fun of me because she felt like she stole him from me. But if he’s willing to put in effort with me and work out his family then forget her right? If he really wanted this he wouldn’t do nothing stupid to mess it up. He was getting his son every other weekend I know everyone has feelings including her. She would throw everything in my face about them and about her meeting my son. Like I said he never stopped trying to get back with me never. He didn’t care if she and her was on good terms or not . I guess idk. He said he was just hurt and wanted to forgive me. He also said if he didn’t want me at all he would’ve moved on fully along time ago.

He is on child support but he doesn’t even bring that up. He talks about us and working out. Give things time and be patient .

I just want this to work out. Any tips ? Suggestions? Advice? How does everyone keep the spark in their relationship child or no child? How do I go about working things with him without being so clingy ? Like how do I do this ? Should I trust him at work ?

I feel so insecure alil toward her. She’s not ugly. But her boobs are way bigger than mines hers are fake but still. She’s wears makeup 24-7. I don’t try to. Her hair is way longer than mines. I cut my hair off and he still said he loves me the same. I wanna ask him so bad does he still find me attractive he has to right is he wants to give things a shot?