My husband and I found out we were pregnant a month after we got married. (First day of LMP was 08/07, we got married 08/10...) We had our apartment together since April and it’s a 12 month lease.

Baby A is due May 14th. Our lease is up April 30th.

After months of debating and trying to decide what is best for us, we started the process of buying a house in December. our prequal is good through April 3rd, which means we have to close before then. The timeline was perfect. I’d be able to be loved and start setting up the baby’s room even though I’d be very pregnant. He’d have a home to live in.

Fast forward to now. Several offers have been rejected, fallen through, or the seller has decided not to sell. we’re at the end of our timeline to be under contract so we will close on time, and our lender doesn’t believe we will qualify again when I’m on FMLA because it is not paid and we need my income to be verified with 30-days of paystubs. So we don’t have a place of our own to live, we can’t afford rent prices for the space we would need (why is buying cheaper than renting???). My in-law have been incredibly generous and offered their home to us, so at least we won’t be living in our cars or a space that’s too small.

But we have two precious cats that I love dearly that can’t come with us. My heart is broken at the thought of not having them with me anymore. My friends and family aren’t able to help watch them so they’ll probably have to be re-homed. I’ve cried so many times over this.

I feel so defeated. My husband and I work so hard so that we can have the life we want and we’ve just been given one bad thing after the other. How much harder and how much more do I have to sacrifice to give my son the life he deserves? Why should I have to sacrifice at all, when all I’ve tried to do my entire life is be smart and be able to have the family life, a nice home, steady income?

I just want good news. I want one thing to work out the way I wanted it to. I want my son to have the best and I feel like he’s not getting that with me as a mother.