Bit of a back story - my dad and his wife are alcoholics. They “detoxed” last year and I supported them through it, used my last few days of annual leave to help them out and look after their granddaughter that they’d arranged to look after (don’t ask)🤷🏼‍♀️.

Well a couple of weeks later he started asking to borrow money again and I knew it was for alcohol. I said I didn’t have the money and apologised. He then told me that I was selfish and he doesn’t want anything to do with me again. He then went on to slate me and my partner and made out we were the most terrible of people. We’ve always had a rocky relationship and he never returned money that was borrowed, (I’m probably £1k out of pocket).

We haven’t spoke since September 2018... I found out I was pregnant in January (I’m roughly 11 and a half weeks pregnant). Should I tell my dad that I’m pregnant and give him the chance to be a grandad to my child? Or should I just leave it how it is and not get in touch?

I have family members on his side that id like to announce to so I have zero idea what to do. Advice please!