Hello Ladies! I have an amazing 5yr old son an wonderful man I’ve been with for 11months. He has 3 kids 12 ,7 & 2 Now here’s were I need your advice.

My son donor left when I told him I was pregnant and was out of my son life for 3yrs. Yeah I admit I was hurt, angry, depressed (after all we were together for 7yrs) going through all these emotions while being a 1st time parent. So I got my self in check put him on Child support after a yr enrolled in school and finally started enjoying my son and Life.

My son turns 4 and now he wants to come around and pay something on his CS payments because of his new girlfriend. And I was all for it until I noticed every time they would break up he wouldn’t come get his son, don’t call & stop coming on his weekends for months. I have had conversations with him about being consistent and making his son a Priority he would say “I will, “I Know” and don’t change. So once again he left.

Now my son birthday just passed on the 19th and he hasn’t seen his son in 35 days and he works & live 7mins away from where our son goes to school and sleep, but will not make an effort to FaceTime, pick him up from school or get him on the weekends. When we talked last week he became disrespectful towards my man and myself and I have stated if you disrespect my household I will hang up on you.

Now he wants to be back involved and I said not if you’re going to be inconsistent. So my question is should I allow him to come back around?