His phone goes off a ton in the middle of the night and it’s a tone I’ve never heard until this week. We freely use each other’s phones but in our relationship it’s a no-no to just go through it for suspicion for the sole reason that we’ve always just talked about our insecurities. You know? Like if I’m worried I’ll usually say “I’m feeling worried” and then we talk about it. But idk he’s always been a good liar and our joke is “put it on your mom” if we think the other is lying and lately he’s been saying “I shouldn’t have to you should just trust me.”

Sooooooo big red flag obviously. How do I go about this when I have confronted him multiple times and every time he just gets defensive saying “you don’t trust me. If you’re going to constantly accuse me of cheating then I might as just well do it.” Like????? I’ve never accused him of anything until this week.