First post ever. 🤓

My questions is : Does is matter to you/should it matter to the relationship what kind of porn is being watched?

I am very open to talking about sex with my boyfriend, but he gets uncomfortable with it pretty fast. I’ve been wanting to spice things up since we haven’t had sex in a month, by linking him a favorite porn of mine. (Very tasteful, erotic sensual love making) I also made sure the couple looked like us, I’m black and he’s white. I thought it was a safe bet.

No response.

He comes home, and I ask him if he liked it and he said “hm. Yeah, I guess”

I tried to start a convo about sex and porn to get him horny, but he said he was tired and went to his computer to play video games.

Okay, I know this next part is NOT RIGHT but...

When frustrated and confused, people do crazy things...

I snooped...on his computer....while he was at work...

He never talks about sex or what he likes and we’ve been together for 3 YEARS! I had to know!! I had to look 2-3 days back to find anything, but I found it...

Now, it wasn’t bad. It was vanilla, and pretty standard straight porn. The one thing I noticed was they were all white women....very skinny, white women. It was A LOT of girls that looked like the exact opposite of me. 😣

I understand that porn is meant to be a fantasy, but I think this is a sign he’s not going to be attracted to me forever. He, his family, and all his friends are all skinny and white. I’m afraid I might have been exotic to him at one point, and now he’s getting bored...

Uh oh, I fucked up...

I know I shouldn’t have looked, PERIOD. Now I feel more insecure than before! Aaaaah!

So, Does is matter to you/should it matter to the relationship what kind of porn is being watched?