I’ve posted a few time on this situation, but haven’t had much advice. I broke things off with a man who didn’t want to progress our casual relationship. He’s almost 40, so it’s not like we are young! He gave lots of valid excuses as to why we would never work out, regardless I’m the type to take a chance and he is more reasonable and level-headed.

I gave him over two weeks to decide. He wouldn’t do it. I guess he wanted things to stay the same. He wanted me, monogamous, but without the future and commitments.

I just broke down and made the decision for us. I decided we would just be friends. But we text daily, and I’m finding myself unable to move on and look for the relationship I left him for. He messages me more than when we were together!!!

I keep hoping he’ll change his mind.

I keep dreaming he’ll make this grand gesture.

I keep pretending we’re still gonna end up together.

Cutting him out isn’t an option.

Why? Because I have no self control around him. He was my comfort for so long. I don’t know what to do. I’m hurt, in pain, and comparing every guy to him. I want to move on. I just don’t know how to do that. I dream every day about going back and never ending things, but I know this was inevitable.

Update: I know the easy answer is cutting him out of my life, but he has been a part of it for so so long and is one of my best friends. Just because our relationship has changed, so I have to lose him too? I am hoping someone has another way to move on that doesn’t include losing him entirely.