My whole life I’ve watched my mom, who is a nurse and worked her butt off for what she has, deal with family who are basically deadbeats. She had two sisters. One has been on disability almost all her life and still worked but recently stopped and got evicted and is now living in section 8. My other aunt has lived in the same place for years before my other aunt moved in because she got pregnant at 40, her husband left her, and even though she could work told my mom she always intended to be a stay at home mom. This aunt has posted on FB publicly that her daughter doesn’t have enough clean underwear and her daughters bus driver paid for my aunt to get new glasses because they felt bad for him. The state gave her a van but she lost it because she couldn’t show up part time three days a week to work...her daughter is 12 now and in school. Well, both aunts are always asking my mom for money and when my pap was sick, he offered my aunt with the child to live with him and her pay their bills and take care of them. He just needed someone there in case he fell. She went to live in low income housing instead. Since he passed about nine years ago, my mom doesn’t talk to them anymore. The issue I’m running into is I feel like I’m going in the same direction with my in-laws. My husband’s family is rough. We couldn’t even invite his cousins to our wedding because his dad said they’d steal the wedding gifts. Most are in and out of jail. They constantly swear, all smoke, are almost always drunk, etc. Well, my husband’s brother bought the place we had been renting from his mom before we got our house. It was falling a part when we lived there. They have a ton of animals (doge, ferrets, lizards, etc) and smoke weed all the time. The brother in law is addicted to online gaming. They have an 8 year old daughter. They post publicly about running out of heating oil, are broke and need help with this or that, etc. It’s just hard because when we invite them over for anything they make these underhanded comments about how we flaunt money. (This was in reference to me throwing my son his first birthday and again when we have the family over for Christmas.) What kills me is they make what we do! The just spend their money on weed and online gaming and all of their animals. Is anyone else in a situation where you just have nothing in common and live a totally different lifestyle than close family? Gatherings are just so awkward and I try to never flaunt something like that but I can’t help we have a nice home and aren’t struggling!