You can never prepare enough for what’s to come. My husband and I have jumped into parenthood alone. Literary, zero support. We’ve had two family members live with us since the birth of my son but they’re dependent on us— by choice.

We moved into our house a month before our son was born and haven’t had any privacy in our own home. I gave up breastfeeding because a my family member made me feel weird about it, because she wasn’t the “bread feeding type”. I got so tired of having to hide in my own house, I gave it up! A week after that family member goes, my husband had a family member move in. Because they can’t stop spending money and dug themselves so deep in debt they can’t even live (and refuses to stop spending while living with us).

So, we now have a 6 month old and our two dogs to care for. While maintaining full-time jobs and totally sleep deprived. We’ve inherited another adult to care for and another dog.

We do not and have never received any financial support from either (and don’t need it).

We don’t think it’s anyone’s responsibility to help us nor do we expect it. We made the choice to have a child. But I want my family back. I want my privacy back. I don’t want to have to take care for dependents that aren’t mine. Am I selfish? Am I wrong?