so I have a thing I'm unsure of.

I'm a very private person and prefer to keep things unsaid until necessary or on a need to know basis.

firstly my husband and I have a better and closer relationship with my parents (who live local) than his (9 hr drive away). And of course literally everyone on the planet wants to know when I go into labor and they say stuff like, "let us know when baby is here" and "let us know when you go into labor" and then the one my FIL said to my husband, "let us know when you are on your way to the hospital."

my problem is that you just don't know what will happen. is it a false alarm? will they send me home again? if not how long will labor last, etc. I have a problem with wanting to inform anyone when we go in to have the baby. I tend to get stressed easily and I am prepared for it to be hard and hurt and I want everything outside of the delivery room to be calm and uninterrupting. I feel anxious about people knowing and being on the edge of their seat waiting for constant updates on my privacy of my body's progress. I feel that giving birth is a very intimate thing my husband and I can share. and I dont want to tell people until after it's over and we are ready for visitors. especially when my inlaws live 9 hrs away. I don't want them to have the opportunity to drive in to "surprise" us when we don't want them visiting until 4 weeks post birth. another reason I feel this way is I dont want us to be distracted from the birth by the feeling of having to give everyone updates out of obligation.

thoughts and advice?