My boyfriend is lovely, and we’ve been together for 2 years now. We’re finally moving out together by next summer and so we’ve been talking about what we’re gonna need and how much we have saved up, etc. etc.

When we first started dating, I told him I was allergic to pets. Since then, he’s seen symptoms and how I run being in a house with one dog and cat currently, owned by relative. Air purifier, humidifier. I’m allowed in one room in the house where the pets have not been. My room is cleaned 3 times a day by me, and the hallway outside is cleaned every few hours. It’s miserable for me. I still have allergy symptoms every day because there’s pets here.

First, my throat gets scratchy and burns, then my eyes itch and water and swell. Then my cheeks get itchy, and my throat starts swelling. No amount of medicine fixes it, but I take Benedryl in hopes of sleeping it off, then wake up with the same scratchy eyes and throat. I am deathly allergic.

Despite knowing all of this, he’s hell bent on having multiple dogs when we move out, even if it means my quality of life is miserable. I told him I’d have to air purify and humidify one designated room and bathroom, clean even more than I do now, and get allergy shots weekly. All of this sounds fair to him, and I’m just so frustrated by it!

Am I being unreasonable for wanting to finally be comfortable in my house without always worrying I’ll go into anaphylactic shock?