Hey everyone.

First I’d like to start by saying I love my husband very much. He’s the most amazing man and everything I want in a husband and more. 💕

However, I’m struggling with how to deal with our life situation currently.

When we got married, my husband had just started a very stressful career, one that not only puts massive amounts of stress on him, but me as well. We had to move across the country and I barely get to see him. Because of this, getting a job is hard for me as the days I do get to see him are so random and few and far between I don’t want to miss them when he does get them. In saying this, I’ve put my dreams and aspirations on hold, while he pursues this career for a few more years.

However, I’m having trouble with the fact that because this job places stress on us, he doesn’t want us to have a baby until he’s done with the job. It’s a concept that’s hard for me, because I’ve put my whole self on hold and now feel guilty for wanting to have a child.

I understand this should (and will) be a team decision but I’m asking how I should deal with the heartache of waiting for him to be ready?

My top dream is to just be a mother. It’s very hard to wait for him to finish his dream and put mine on hold.