I met a guy on a trip to California visiting family (I live in Ontario, Canada). He’s friends with my cousin and we hit it off immediately, like an instant connection. We both felt comfortable around each other. We held hands, and kissed the last night I was there.

He’s the worst at texting, and he’s known for it. So it’s hard to get to know each other.

I sent him a message the other night saying I missed him, He said “I don’t know how I feel about you right now if I’m totally honest” and we talked the rest of the day about how he has major trust issues, and that past relationships have really messed him up, and that he’ll get more comfortable the more he gets to know me. He said he’s confused Because his lack of information about me, and he doesn’t commit to things unless he has enough information. And that he can handle how he feels, but he doesn’t want to hurt me if our feelings aren’t aligned.

Are all guys like this and they just don’t vocalize it? Or is this a lost cause? I understand having trust issues.. I just don’t know where to go from here.

He is the nicest person I’ve met in a long time, and my family speaks highly of him. He gave me no indication when I was there that he didn’t have feelings towards me, but now that I’m on the other side of the world he’s saying he’s confused.

Helppppp. Anyone else have a similar situation or experience?