When to tell

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When did you tell your parents that you were pregnant? My husband is convinced that if we lose the baby early and don't tell anyone we are pregnant they will be upset. 
I am afraid of telling people so early. I'm 4 weeks. He thinks we need to tell the grandparents-to-be now so they can be our support system if we lose our baby. 
I want to wait because I am plus size and I know that comes with possible complications and it will take longer for me to show. We are 4 weeks. We found out literally 2 days ago. 
Ladies, will you please give me your advice on this? When did you tell anyone? What do you recommend?

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I called my mum before I told my partner. I wanted to tell the people close to me because if something goes wrong I'll have that support. Don't plan on announcing any time soon though, and distant family won't be finding out yet.

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We told both our mums as soon as we found out at 4 weeks - even though it isn’t just his decision, you should acknowledge that he wants that support system around you both in case something does happen

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We told our families at 7-8 weeks AFTER an early ultrasound which detected a heartbeat. I didn’t feel comfortable telling anyone before then.

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I didnt tell anyone but my hubby until 14 weeks both times. It gave me time to be sick without everyone constantly reaching out and it was fun both times to have a little secret with my hubby. I personally hate being the center of attention and once you tell your family especially if it's your first noone will leave you alone. I hate it so I go as long as I can without telling!!

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We told our families about a week to 10 days after we found out. (I was about 5ish weeks when we told them)

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We told my mama earlier at like 4 Weeks last time. Then about 2 weeks later we had a miscarriage. I really hope it doesn’t but I’m 6w2d today. We decided not to tell my mama this time because she’s not the best secret keeper. She told so many people last time then we had a miscarriage. We had to tell everyone she told. It was heartbreaking. So this time we decided to wait until after the first ultrasound which is in 2 weeks. We are also gonna tell everyone in the same week so we can get the reactions in person... I would do what you feel is the best for your situation. Good luck hun!

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I told mine as soon as I got my blood work back

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I’m currently 22 weeks. Told my family at 10 because we live with them and I was SUPER sick. In laws don’t know yet lol

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We told our family at what was supposed to be 8 weeks, thinking we were in the clear since we saw the heartbeat at a 6 week ultrasound. We went to the doctor at what was supposed to be 9 weeks and found out baby stopped growing around 6 weeks. It was really hard to turn around and tell our families and our nieces and nephews didn’t understand why our baby died.

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We waited until the first ultrasound so we had something to show our parents. But we didn’t tell the other family or friends until way later. He’s right on the one hand if you lose baby you will have support and comfort but I think waiting for that first scan is good. When I lost my baby last year I’m SO happy I had my mom! But there is literally NO safe time to tell people about a baby regardless who size you are. Anything can happen at any moment during pregnancy 😕

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