I previously had a post on here about how my husband ruined Valentine’s Day, if the below sounds at all familiar that’s why.. it wouldn’t let me update cause there was to many words.. I’ll do small recap for those who didn’t see it. My husband basically ruined Valentine’s Day, refused to eat the dinner I slaved over, and proceeded to talk to his mother in his truck for 2 hours, came in and went to sleep. The next day we got into an argument about Valentine’s Day, He immediately called his mother who proceeded to tell him to record every single thing I do and say, secretly go file for divorce, kick me out, call the cops on me for kidnapping and auto theft if I take our son and 1 of our 2 cars to leave, to tell the lawyers and cops I am an abusive psychotic person so that I would end up in jail and lose all custody of my son. This was the conversation they had on our patio that I could hear from three separate rooms as clear as day cause she was being soooooo loud.

My husband and I got on better terms and are working through his mental health which was the cause of everything above. I told him that I am not comfortable being anywhere near his mother let alone our son being near her. I do not feel comfortable letting someone who threatened me and everything I hold dear in life, my husband and son, to have any contact with our son. My husband wasn’t okay with this and said it wasn’t fair. He ALWAYS takes her side and praises her for everything she does, even the bad. She abandoned her kids with her abusive ex. My husband and his older sister wound up homeless at 15 and 18.. he blames his father but his mother did nothing to help. She let him be homeless for three years. Which this lead to the argument of who’s feelings and wants are more important, his mothers or his wife’s.... now we kinda came to terms On This but not 100%. At the same time my eldest SIL also told my mil that she is not allowed near/to contact her 3 children.

About a year ago My sil was staying with her grandparents, for two weeks, that’s she hadn’t seen in YEARS, like 6-7 YEARS, while on a business trip. Sounds more than reasonable to me to stay with family you haven’t seen in a long time vs a hotel a mile away. Right?! My mil just showed up one day to visit for a week with out telling them, told her parents to kick her daughter out of their house or she was leaving, the grandparents refused to kick her out, obviously, and my mil left. Called my husband to Bitch and complain. So as you can see Im not the only one she has used these tactics on...

now a LONG time ago, my husband was being very.. off for a lack of better words and was being SUPER secretive of his phone. He does not care if I go through his phone he’s told me on multiple occasions I can if I ever want to. So after getting no where asking him what’s wrong I snooped.. wrong I know but I needed answers and answers I got! There was no cheating but what I found I wasn’t happy to see. I found a female coworker of his, that I was friends with, constantly talking shit about me saying that he runs the house and that I should get no say anything that can affect us, our family, our home, etc. that my place is in life is to clean, cook, and lay on my back... all because she wanted to take advantage of my husbands good nature of always wanting to help a person in need, and I had said no cause it would have severely affected us negatively what she was asking. I was very hurt, upset, distraught just didn’t know what to do so I texted his mother seeking advice.. this is what she told me 👇🏼

Notice that middle message from her?! She wanted ME to keep secrets and lie to my husband. Now I have never and will never so I told him the next morning after getting zero advice from her 🙄 that was all the “ advice” she gave me... ANYWAYS I never told her I told him cause I was curious in what she would do.. my husband and I talked about what I found and why I was upset and we agreed to limit our contact with her besides for professional reasons. In fact she wound up moving to a different state with her family and we no longer have to deal with her! It’s been great, cause she was ALOT of bad drama.

Back to present, my husband told my mil how I felt and that I didn’t want her in contact with our son, for obvious reasons.. this is what she texted my husband 🙄😡

Y’all I am beyond furious. I bend over backwards for my husband, encourage him to peruse his dreams constantly. I have never held my husband back from something he wanted to do or try. And this is what his mother wants to say about me? She’s not even sorry, she not sorry or remorseful she hurt me to the point the mere thought of myself or our son being near her has given me so much anxiety it starts to make me sick now. She’s mad she got caught and I called her out to my husband. She took advantage of my husband at his weakest moment so she could say HORRIBLE, VILLE things about me and not get reprimanded.

I even went to a marriage counselor today to seek advice on what I can do to help communicate better with my husband, and what we can do to get through everything that’s going on. Trying to be as proactive as I can so that our marriage doesn’t suffer. The marriage counselor was shocked and appalled at his mothers actions to say the least. If there was even a SLIVER of hope that me and my mil would work things out, it’s gone now. How could someone, a mother nonetheless, be this vindictive and malicious enough to try to tear her sons marriage apart? I have NEVER done or said anything mean or hurtful to her or her family and this is how I’m treated by her? This is how she treats her eldest daughter too, and she’s furious no one wants her in contact with their children. He’ll her own parents are about to cut her off because of what she’s doing to her children and us. She a legit monster.