My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We have a 5 year old daughter and definitely want more kids, when the time is right. We have lived with my family for the past 4 years to save money and help out. We have discussed in the past that we do not want to bring a baby into this house, and with the stress of having an ill grandmother and an elderly great grandmother that I take care of, it's just not the right time.

Anyways... We might be pregnant. We both know the exact day that it would have happened, 10 days ago. Today when I used the restroom I had some pink/red spotting. I have had regular periods for years and never any spotting. Of course I told my husband and his first reaction was shock. The second was, we can't do this yet..

Our life here is very stressful. And there's nothing we can do about it at this time. I know that if we are pregnant, the right decision is too terminate, but I have this guilt hanging over me because i know we both want more children in the future. I also wouldn't want to tell any one in our family due to the fact that I feel they would all say, "keep it and make it work, this is what you want" ugh...

If it pregnant, I will do a medication abortion. I don't know if I should wait until my period is suppose to come in 5 days or if I should make a Dr appointment now to find out and start the process.

Thanks for reading. Any advice and experiences will be appreciated.

Update: thank you for the replies. We had a very LONG discussion today and are really weighing both options because we are having a lot of guilty feelings already for even thinking about it. And I appreciate your advice and kind words.