So since my baby was born my mother will occasionally come and stay the night to help. It's only if my baby is very unsettled or was unsettled the previous night resulting in very little sleep for me.

She takes the bassinet and sleeps on the lounge with my daughter in the bassinet next to her. The loungeroom is close to my room so I wake up when I hear my daughter start to fuss, I go and feed her, then my mother will change her and put her back to sleep.

My daughter always seems to sleep longer when my mother is here, I've tried to copy everything she does with her but my daughter just doesn't sleep as well for me. I feel so guilty everytime I ask my mum for help, she always reassures me she doesn't mind and that she enjoys the bonding time with her granddaughter. My husband never wakes when our daughter cries and so I feel very isolated of a night time. I could wake him up and I do when I'm really struggling but he usually has work during the day, and he's very difficult to wake up. Some nights I'll get him to hold her for a little while but come morning he won't remember doing it and it makes me nervous that he's holding her while half asleep.

My issue is that I want my mum to come and help more often (my daughter is 8 weeks and she's been over maybe 6-7 times), I know it's wrong to ask her unless it's really necessary but it's so nice to have someone help of a night time and I love chatting to her while I nurse my daughter. I have always loved spending time with my mum, we go visit her often so it's not the only time my daughter sees her. I just feel bad because I should be able to do this on my own and I feel like I can't, I don't want to start relying on my mum and I feel so selfish for even letting her help but at the same time it's such a relief 😓