I know this is more of a relationship type of post, but It has to do strictly with welcoming a newborn into this world.

my mother.....

she had me at 15. she never stepped foot into a high school. but she did go to college when she was around 30. she is very immature. she doesnt have a lot of patience, and she isnt very understanding. she takes everything to heart and will hold a grudge like nobody's business.

so...when I was 19, I had my daughter. she lives in Kentucky. but when I told her I was in labor, she drove the 12 hours to get to me. I let her be in the room, and she stayed with me for about a week afterwards.

well, now I'm 27. married. and I am going to have a baby next week. my husband and I talked (different father than to my daughter) and we both agreed that we dont want any family in the room with us, or visiting us after the baby is born. we dont want extra people in our house, and we want to establish a routine and get adjusted to our new life with a baby.

so....I had to tell my mother, because she never asked me if she could come stay with us after the baby is born. she assumed. and I'm married now. we have our own views and takes on things we want. so I texted her, because she was asking for a baby update and this includes that.

well, of course she doesnt see my side of things and now I feel terrible!!

I get it. she has to drive 12 hours, she'd need a place to stay and staying a week at least would make the trip worth while. but I'm going to have 16 weeks off of work, cant she just let us have our few weeks together and then ask to visit?

why dont mothers ever ask? 😟