Is it healthy to fight with my bf?

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I’ve been in a relationship a little over three months and things are going well! We’ve never fought, he’s respectful of my boundaries, and there’s a lot of open communication when we’re troubled by something. But every time I see relationship advise, a lot of people swear that fighting is a normal part of a healthy relationship. Is there something missing in my relationship because my boyfriend and I haven’t fought yet? Is it normal, or am I just worried about nothing?

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Key word: yet. It’s only been 3 months

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I’d say it’s healthy to have disagreements with one another from time to time. If you guys aren’t fighting then that’s also pretty good. Just make sure that he isn’t hiding any residual resentment or dislike on something.  The same goes for you. Make sure you’re both on the same page. But disagreements do happen, and it’s a natural thing. As long as both parties respect one another before, during, and after the disagreement. That’s purely my opinion on it.

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don’t fix it if it’s not broken. disagreements, discussions, small fights, all perfectly fine. but you e only been together a short amount of time. you’re still in the honeymoon phase, enjoy it! every relationship is different, do what works for you guys.

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You've only been together 3 months. Arguments don't start until much later. My husband didn't argue for the first time til after we lived in together over a year into our relationship

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Fighting can be healthy in a relationship but it isn’t necessary to have a healthy relationship. 
I have been with my partner for 2.5 years and we’ve only fought once, which was about a month ago and if was resolved respectfully and with open communication. 
As long as you and him are both being true to yourselves and are voicing your opinions and concerns openly rather than just trying to keep the peace, it’s all healthy in my book. 
I personally don’t like confrontation and fighting so it’s very important for me to be with a partner who communicates with love and respect.

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So this is something my fiancé and I talk about a lot. We've been together for about 3 years, and we're getting married in a few days! We have spent the last couple of months planning a wedding, dealing with unemployment, moving countries, starting new jobs, and having money issues all at the same time, and guess what?
We've never fought. People ask us all the time if we've had our first fight yet. Yet - as if it's a normal, inevitable part of every relationship. 
We've also noticed that on here a lot, and a lot of people when talking about their relationship say things like "We are so happy and love each other so much, I mean we have our issues, but who doesn't?!" Like it's a completely healthy thing to talk about the bad parts of your relationship when you're trying to talk about how good it is. 
We think maybe people are just trying to normalize having a not-so-great relationship by saying fighting is healthy. I disagree. I think having disagreements is normal, but you should be able to overcome them and comprise while remaining respectful to each other and not stooping to fighting. Fighting shows a lack of maturity and respect, in my opinion. And having a relationship where you don't fight should be praised, and maybe fighting in a relationship should be seen as negative instead of "normal."

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I wouldn’t say fight. Disagreements happen though, eventually they happen to everyone. Fighting as in yelling and whatnot? Not healthy. But it’s 100% normal to be upset with your SO for something or to have a disagreement.

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I definitely don’t believe in relationship “advice” that insinuates constant fighting is normal and/or healthy. As long as neither of you are holding back on your feelings or opinions, there’s no need to worry.
You’ve only been together for a few months, so of course a fight will occur sooner or later. However, open communication and the ability of both parties to discuss issues and deescalate potential fights is extremely important in a long term relationship.
The “advice” advocating for consistent, angry fighting must come from combative people not in a happy long-term relationship, because I can surely tell you to have a happy marriage you have to always remember you and your spouse are on the same team and need to work together to solve the many issues life presents.
Disagreements in long-term relationships/marriages happen, but neither party should ever focus on winning. Your SO’s opinion and feelings should be more important than winning an argument - sometimes that means compromising, sometimes that means just dropping the issue and agreeing to disagree.

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Me and my gf didn’t have fights at all till a year in because of our understanding and when we do fight now it’s nothing huge don’t look for fights when they happen they happen but enjoy the peace I remember me and my gf have been together 3 years now and we have a lot more cute fights then serious ones like if shorts are pants which lasted a week btw 😂

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we’ve never argued. I think it’s weird that fighting is so normalized. Disagreements are normal, but frequent, real arguments aren’t normal. At least they aren’t/will not be in my relationship. Although we’re both fairly level headed

Is it healthy to fight with my bf?

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