So long story short my bf and I have dates for 5 years. With 3 of those being long distance. We see each other monthly on the weekends and about 1 week from may-August. We don’t mind long distance since we are both super busy with school. I am in my first year of a 4 year grad program. The plan was always after he graduated my bf was going to move down by me and try and get a job here. Well the past month he’s changed his plans he is going to keep working at his parents business and then apply for jobs. I’m very upset because we have been forced to be long distance for so long now that we have a chance I feel like he bailed on me. He will always have a job working for his parents so I don’t get why he can’t apply for stuff down by me then if nothing works out here be like I need to work and make money this summer which I totally would get. I also would totally get if he had a job lined up and if that kept us from being together. I support him always and want him to chase his dreams but like there’s nothing right now stopping him from being like hey I am moving in with you this summer...even if it’s temporarily. He has applied for nothing but constantly tells me how hard it is to get a job when he’s never applied for any job before. I told him how I felt and his thing is working to make money which I get but he’s a waiter...there are waiter jobs everywhere. I don’t want to beg him to live with me but like truthfully I’m 22 I want to know if we are compatible living together and all. I don’t want to beg him to live with me but at the same time I have no interest in staying together when clearly he doesn’t have the same goals as me. I know he loves me but his actions don’t show it at all. I don’t want to sound like a bitch but isn’t that what people who love each other do?? If I wasn’t in grad school I would be doing all I could to not be long distance. Also disclaimer the jobs he wants are military so they assign you places so we can be long distance for who knows how many more years which i support since it’s his life but wouldn’t he want to live with me now when that’s not a concern