Ok. Let me just point out that my boyfriend and I are not married. We have been extremely close friends for 6 years and recently entered into a relationship several months ago. He has a two year old that I adore. Of course, The dynamic between my boyfriend and I changed because we are in a relationship now and the expectations are naturally a bit different. He’s a great father and I adore that he is. In fact it makes me love him more. Its just that I feel a bit excluded when it comes to his two year old and I’m not sure if I’m supposed to feel this way or if I should be doing more to NOT feel this way. I don’t want to do too much or overstep my boundaries but I don’t want to seem as if I’m uninterested in building a bond with them either. He tells me I’m great with the kids (he has another but he’s older). I don’t know what the hell Im doing or not doing for him to feel that way because I just feel awkward at times considering I don’t have children of my own. I just work with them in behavior health. It sometimes feels like it’s him and his kids and then me. Instead of all of us. Like he could do without me when it comes to them and I shouldn’t get involved unless I’m needed. He says he wants me to build a bond with them but it seems impossible with him doing everything and leaving me out. I know I’m not any of their mothers and I never will be. Im not bothered by that, it just seems that in his mind I’m shut out and he doesn’t want me to be a part of the bond they have and its confusing to maneuver through. It makes me feel distant in forming a relationship because I feel like I’m treading on thin waters trying not to overstep my boundaries. Which is weird because of course when we were just friends, I didn’t feel that way. It was real easy going.