I made an error in judgment and got pregnant by someone I had only known two months and wasn't even dating. I blame both of us. He and I were acting immature and as a result got pregnant. It is what it is now. Can't change it.

Well, since we were never together and barely knew each other, he STRONGLY insisted that I abort. I put up a fight and said no way. I chose to keep our baby. He said it's either me or the baby. So I chose the baby and stopped talking to him when I was about 3 months pregnant.

He reappeared when I was about 8.5 months. But it was awful. At first he apologized and said he wanted to be involved. And then two days later he'd freak and be like I can't do this. Then he'd see my belly for the first time and cry and be all sensitive which is fine, and then the next day be mad and tell me that he doesn't have feelings for me and that he was mad that his ex left him after learning that he had a baby mama somewhere that she never knew about. So there was a lot of back and forth for the remainder of my pregnancy. My family and friends hate his guts for pushing me towards an abortion. And in all honesty, I didn't invite him to be there when our baby was born. He came the next day. Our baby has a very bad heart that cannot be operated on and some special needs but in some miraculous way she is still here five months later.

I've never asked for his help. Not once. Not ever. But he has told me multiple times that he feels guilty for not helping and wants to support us (the baby and I) but I tell him no I don't need his help. I don't want child support. I don't want anything. (Neither of us want to do the court thing. We are civil about that. I have no desire to take him to court or vice versa. It would make such a mess. Also with her special needs plus he lives nearly 4 hours away from me so it would be so hard to make an every other week type of life work.)

Anyways he wants to support us and buy her things. He wants to pay rent and have me move closer to him so he can see us more. I said no. Because my family and friends have had my back since day one there is no way I'm leaving them for his indecisive ass.

He has been begging me. Literally begging me to let him buy her a crib, stroller, and carseat. He wants me to pick one and let him pay for it. I keep saying no. Because I don't need help. I'm capable of buying things for our baby and just in my opinion it doesn't make you some great dad because you dump money and stuff on your child. I'd rather him spend time with our baby. Not buy her stuff. Yes she's a baby but as she grows, she won't remember daddy bought me a crib. She'll remember daddy loved me and spent time with me and made memories with me.

So he's been annoying me about the crib for probably 3 weeks (she's still in her bassinet because she is such a small baby but I'm hoping to get her a crib within the next month). I keep saying no it's fine don't worry about it and stuff. And he got so mad at me for it the other day and hasn't spoken to me in 6 days because of it. And he was supposed to come to a cardiologist appointment with us this week and he will not say a word to me because of the crib thing. I'm like what?!

But I guess that's a different story. So what do you think? Vote or comment. Should I let her "sperm donor " of a dad buy her stuff? I'm more than capable. I've done it all on my own so far. Part of me is worried he'll be all arrogant and tell the world oh I bought her a crib because I'm such a good person and crap. Thoughts?!