Okay I am at a dilemma with myself right now right now I'm at the point to where I want my first child already my boyfriend wants our first child already the thing is with that is his side of the family wants him to have a child my side of family is like you know go out and enjoy life you know and then have the kids but I feel like personally that I want a child but I don't want to have to go through the struggles of having a child even though having a child planned or unplanned is like something you can't fix like either goes wrong or goes right you know when it comes to Children nobody can perfectly prepared for a child so I feel as though as long as I'm very ready yeah my boyfriend's very ready I feel like we can do that but I don't want to let down my parents by doing those things so how do I please myself and still make sure that my parents knows that I'm going to be okay