Hello! I just wanted an opinion. This is my mother.

Anytime my mother messages me she always includes this; my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and at the start of our relationship she had given him a chance supposedly. Her reasons on not liking him is that he has no manners.

The first strike: when he and I had first dated we had came home and ate McDonald’s that we had bought, it completely went over our heads to buy my sister something to eat. It was rude.

Second strike: I had a family gathering, my family is Asian and he is Caucasian; he doesn’t enjoy the food and he had just gotten off work so he grabbed something to eat on his way to hangout with my family. We had made dinner and my mother found it rude that he brought his own dinner to dinner.

Keep in mind this all happened a year and a half ago.

Personally my mother doesn’t like my boyfriend based off of his looks. Yes, he isn’t everyone’s first choice with his beer belly look and scruffy beard. We’re only 19. He just aged differently?? I don’t know, but it doesn’t bother me. It’s also something he and I are working on since we’ve both gained so much “relationship weight.”

Now he doesn’t come around very much. The last time he came around my family was thanksgiving and it went horrible with my drunk uncle (another story).

He and I have just decided that if he’s unwelcome then it’s okay and we should keep our distance and respect my mother by keeping away instead of forcing him around her.

My mother says she’s just trying to look out for me and I understand it. Our relationship is not close at all. We’ve spoke about my relationship with my boyfriend before and I explained to her that she may not like him but I sure do and have no reason to leave him based off of because she wants me to.

I just need advice to see what direction I need to go with my mom.

Thanks.

Below is the screenshot of my moms message.

Below is a picture of my boyfriend and I.