I need to vent before I loose my mind I clean my

House and when I clean I mean I wipe down walls,dust everything and I like it done a certain way yea I am a picky cleaner I grew up in a clean home and I feel as my kids should also and know they should keep their home clean to you never know what can happen who might just pop up and you want to feel relaxed in your home anyways my fiancé grew up in a clean home also his mom and wela didn’t play that and I’m at the point in time I’m teaching my toddler he needs to help keep the house clean he helps me and we put toys away together he cleans up his mess when he makes one I don’t yell I’ll say uh-oh we have to clean that up and he will go get a rag or whatever and clean we clap afterwards and I say good job..But when he is home with dad he lets him get into everything I come home and it looks like a tornado hit and I get frustrated not him my son but with dad because he be like the house don’t look bad or idk what happened and I feel like I want to knock him out especially with these pregnancy hormones and I tired talking to him and he’s like you have ocd and I feel like he don’t care if he lives messy and I feel like it’s part of my fault because I clean up behind everyone but now that I’m chasing a toddler around plus pregnant I’m starting to see where I went wrong.idk I just needed to vent before I went crazy 🤣😩