My boyfriend has made plans for a vacation. I a month prior took the days off. He left me and went by himself spent A LOT of money on a hotel and many other things. When he came back he accused me of cheating, it was my grandmother's sweater that he saw! When we get into fights he has pushed me, called me many names such as a whore, a bitch, a cunt, ect. Alls I do is take it and ask him to leave my home. These thing escalate pretty fast with him. He never wants to hear how i feel, or why i feel the way i feel, or what he has done to make me feel a certain way (he says leave it in the past because ITS the past) I cant. I love him so much, but i cant leave it in the past ( he never let's me talk or say how I feel, so I'm always feeling this way). My parents didnt like him at first because hes 47 and I'm 23. My dad eventually came around and my grandparents loved him at first meeting. After hearing everything and hearing how he has hurt me they no longer want me to be with him.

My situation as of right now:

My tia who I havent seen in months came up to visit, I asked if he minded if I left to go see her (because shes at my parents house and well..... my dad most definetly doesnt want him there) he says it makes him feel uncomfortable and that it's odd that i want to do so. I asked why. He said because he cant be there and that i should stick up for him and talk good about him/make things right between him and my parents. I dont think it's my place to do so because I'm not the one who made these things bad between them. HE DID.

I havent told my parents we were back together because I dont want to hear what I already know they are going to say. I don't want them to hurt my feelings or tell me I'm stupid for doing this.

(Now only reading just a few things that have happend because I cant give a whole story without boring someone)

My question is... what should I do? What would you do? What do you think about this sotuation?