I’m posting anonymously due to the situation at hand.

So here’s my situation:

We have a 14 month old daughter and a little boy due in July. My inlaws think they are going to get my daughter the whole time I’m in labor at the hospital. They also think they need a car seat for her in their car.

Back story: I and my husband had decided that it wasn’t ever safe for her to ride with them but he seems to have forgotten.

Safety concerns:

- my fil carries oxygen in his trunk and lots of it which is illegal not to mention a bomb waiting to go off. If they were hit chances of survival is slim to nothing. I can’t stop seeing my daughter dying this way,

- My mil isn’t a safe driver, my fil oxygen is always bad he runs all over the road and falls asleep at the wheel.

- While watching her say while I’m at the house they’ve fallen asleep, not heard her (fil is basically deaf), and she’s fallen out of her bed etc.

- they can hardly move and my mil isn’t even supposed to be lifting her due to health issues.

- they literally blew a tire and drove an hour without knowing or 🛑!

- they also don’t get there’s safety issues with how she rides in a car seat and installed. Like tightening and harness clip location.

There’s more but that’s the top ones!

They keep asking me about what car seat to but I told them that it was expensive she’d always be with us, and I needed to talk to my husband about it. What I didn’t say is my mom has a seat and is closer to where we live. My concern is my husband made me put the convertible car seat on the baby registry and I’m concerned they will buy one for their car from that thinking it will be used.

What would you do how would you handle this situation! Obviously if they try to trick me or she rides with them without my permission I’m going to go b**** crazy on them. I don’t want to but it’s my daughters life at risk