I posted a couple days ago about my niece accusing my boyfriend, and father of my one year old daughter, of touching her inappropriately. I want to break things off, at least until the investigation is over, but I’m worried about what will happen to my daughter. My niece and her parents had a meeting with child and youth services (I believe that’s who) this passed Thursday and afterwards the woman called me. She said she recommends him not be around our daughter alone.

I am worried because I live with my parents, brother and nephew. He was living here too until this happened and my brother, who owns the house, kicked him. The house can be messy at times, especially when it comes to my nephew, who is non-verbal autistic. I am afraid it’ll somehow cause me to lose my daughter. I can deal with my relationship being over, losing my daughter would kill me. My “boyfriend” doesn’t have an actual job (he works under the table for his friend) and no insurance. I have been a cashier with the same store chain for over 11 years and I have health insurance through Medicaid for now as does my daughter.

I love my boyfriend and he is a good father, but right now my heart isn’t in the relationship and I don’t want to string him along. I don’t want to hurt him either, but I feel this is something I need to do.

What will happen to my daughter if I break things off for now?