I just found out my bf still watches porn while we’re dating, is it ok for me to be upset?

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Unless y’all specifically had a conversation saying you were both uncomfortable with it then no. You have no reason to be upset. If it does upset you (to the point it’s a deal breaker)then you should find someone who feels the same way

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Can't watch porn, if you put parental controls on his phone.

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Yes it is okay to be upset! Not everyone has the same view on porn and people need to be understanding of that. With that being said, I don’t want porn in my relationship and it took me quite some time to find the balls to discuss that topic with my boyfriend because it just gave me intense anxiety. I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times, so a lot of sexual stuff makes me uncomfortable and he now understands that. Even though I don’t like porn, I did have to understand his point of view before we could come to a mutual understanding. At first I was shaming him because it was just my natural response. Once I talked to my therapist about it, I came to realize that that was not a fair or rational approach. I needed him to know exactly why I’m not comfortable with it and that I might never be, but that I’m okay with his history of prom use and that I just wanted him to work on not looking at it anymore. He agreed and respected that. If he hadn’t, I wouldn’t still be with him. In any relationship, you have to be on the same page, whether you both like porn or if you need to find a compromise when one doesn’t or if neither likes it. For us, my compromise was making our own videos. I don’t even feel comfortable watching those, but I like that he enjoys them.🤷‍♀️ You have to do what feel right in your relationship, but what others feel. You’re allowed to have your own opinions and feelings. How your SO responds and reacts and if he’ll support this and make a compromise and learn to not have this habit anymore is important part and it may be a struggle at first, but you just have to be patient. My bf put a filter on his reddit and I didn’t even ask him to or know that was a thing. He’s committed to me, so for me, he’s committed to fixing this habit and those were his words. And it’s taken me some time to believe it due to my own trust issues, but taking that step has helped our relationship so much and our sex life has improved dramatically.

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If you set boundaries not to then yes, but if you never said that you didn't like it then I don't think you have a reason to be angry. Talk to him and express what your boundaries are and why so he understands, and try and work it out.

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If you told him you don't  like it and it's  not okay with you and he still does it then yes you have a right to be upset it's  not okay in my relationship and I won't  let anyone tell me otherwise

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Ignore all the comments written from Women who can't do anything about their man watching porn, hence have no control over him- it apparently makes you upset so yes it is bad. My boyfriend and I don't watch porn because we have each other lmao.

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It all depends on how far he's going with it . The amount of time he spends watching it and if it interrupts y'all sexual activity/connection.

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100% yes!! I made it clear from the start of my relationship that I didn't want him to watch anything like that. 3 years passed and I caught him. It broke my heart. I felt worthless, like he'd cheated on me. If I'm honest, 2 years later I still occasionally cry myself to sleep thinking about how disgusting I must be. Your feelings are so important but so are his. My partner agreed not to watch it so it hurt me. I suppose if you didn't set out clear boundaries in the first place then he isn't in the wrong. If he won't give it up now and respect your feelings maybe youre better off with someone else

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I'm sorry to tell you that this is a common place problem. It has nothing to do with what men feel for us girls or how much sex we're having with them. Worse yet, sometimes it's an addiction.  My advice, don't assume anything, have an honest conversation and be prepared that this may be a relationship long issue. If that's a deal breaker for you, I suggest you adopt an open communication from the earliest start of your next relationship. You are entitled to your feelings. Hope things  work out for the best for you.

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My bf is in the military so we go months without seeing each other. Therefore, I can’t be mad about it and neither can he. Also when he’s in town and I’m not in the mood I don’t care if he does. 
If it’s something you have a problem with you need to tell him. You can’t be mad if it’s not a conversation you’ve had.

I just found out my bf still watches porn while we’re dating, is it ok for me to be upset?

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