IDK what to do 😔🤯❤️
(Sorry it might be long, shortened as much as possible)
I’ve been single for a while now. My last relationship was long term and with my kids father which is why I haven’t moved on.. was just to hard to do. Long story short, summer of 2018 I met someone and decided to give them a chance. This guy really makes me happy and puts me in a better mood rather it’s in person or over the phone. I let my guard down, really started to have hope again. We eventually started having sex which I feel was too early. I got pregnant but never mentioned it. During the fall we lost touch and I was upset about it. Here comes 2019 and i get a call very late at night from my siblings saying he’s knocking at their door asking for me, saying how much he misses me etc.
We get back in touch, he tells me how he’s been trying to find me and hmu. We linked up eventually and I was just so happy to be around him, none of my problems mattered at that moment.. I was very upset that we lost touch of course so I basically made touching me off limits. I allowed him to kiss me so many times though, we sat and talked for hours.
He said he thought we should start dating, told me how much he cared about me, loved me etc. Each day that we’ve been back in contact, I’ve felt better.
Fast fwd a few weeks , and he’s saying I’m being inconsistent, how I dnt make enough time for him etc. Then one day he says he needs to talk but I didn’t want to because he was rude the day before . He texts me saying how he met someone while we weren’t in touch and they’re together so now I’m upset/angry.. but then he says he’s been with this person since he’s met me, basically changing the story up over and over. Later into the conversation he tells me he has good/bad news to tell me.... she’s pregnant!!!! So now I’m even more upset. He proceeds to say he rather talk in person but the more I found out , I felt devastated, hurt, and just ugh. He says he was never with this girl but yet the girl is his best friend, but they’ve had sex in the past . Thanksgiving when my siblings say he came to see me is the day he says he had sex with her, he doesn’t knw why but he did. I found out that they live together but was never a couple . He doesn’t even wanna be around her, she makes him feel unloved etc but yet now he’s doesn’t wanna make he wrong move and mess things up for his future kid. He wants me to stick around and we work on something but doesn’t want her to be aware bcuz he doesn’t knw what she will do or how things will be. They never been together but she always been known to get mad if he even txts a female around her etc. I don’t understand, if this was your best friend, there shouldn’t be an issue. I never told him about the pregnancy bcuz of him disappearing . And I feel dumb now because we just had sex again recently.
I’m just so lost on if I should try this out with him and see where it goes or just leave it all alone. I don’t want to because of his child knowing that he accepted the fact I have kids but I don’t want to stick around and then somehow they decide they need to be together for the baby , which would leave me even more hurt.
Advice please !! 😞
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